Don't Be Mad At Her!

When infidelity becomes the topic- who is truly the blame? Do you blame the unfaithful man, or the snake in the grass woman. In some incenses it is both who are responsible for their actions but ultimately it is always-always the man who is at fault. When your in a relationship/ marriage your allegiance is to your partner. Outsiders don't owe you jack. Sure, we would love for people in society to have some form of standards and a distinct reproach from things that are unacceptable. But, some don't. Most people are selfish and have no regards for the individuals they hurt, the children who lie in the balance, the homes that will become dismantled; no sense of responsibility for the breakdown of family structure in America. Even though, if someone did these same acts to them they would be appalled. The man has the ultimate responsibility and that is-- he keeps his head where it belongs (pun intended.) I can most definitely empathize and understand all the temptations that lurk in the deep corners of a man's mind, but, in his mind is where it should stay. Okay fellas let's be honest- 75-80% of you all are not having panties thrown at your feet on a constant basis. So most likely, the woman you cheat on us with- are not one of those "it just happened," type of situations. You guys worked on those cookies-- long and hard. And, after you've achieve this goal of betrayal and deceit, you go home and smile in your families face. This is why it is your fault! You had the ability to stop, you didn't. You could've not rented that hotel room, but you did! You could have remembered your partner, how beautiful she is inside and out, how she nurses you when you are ill, how she cooks for you, how she is your counselor, your financial planner, your religious leader, a mother, a friend, a lawyer, a garden of beauty, she is your house-when there's no place like home, your LOL SMILEY FACE, your shelter from rain, but, you did not think of that did you? Or perhaps you did, but still the act was committed. what ever you did or did not think about- you turned your back on the person who loves you best. It is the woman’s fault to a small degree- notably most because she did not respect herself nor a fellow woman. But, as stated earlier his alliance is with you.

So if you are ever faced with this terrible trial in life, remember this- put the blame on the blamee... he did it- he allowed another woman to break the bond that you two have built-and it is he that should be held responsible.