Many women can find themselves changing in wants, needs and desires on any given day. Needy, insecure, confident, strong, depending upon mood and life experiences; women can be one if not all on the same day. But, this is not about the chameleon. This is about whom you are MOST of the time. We all are familiar with the reflection in the mirror, but who is the person standing there. Good Girl, Bad Girl, or Miss Independence: Which One Are You?
The Good Girl: Normally she tends to be a little “green,” sheltered or perhaps just inexperienced. She tends to think that “all is fair in love & war,” and dishonesty wears a stamp on its sleeve; Naive, to say the least. The “Good Girl” will normally fall victim to the “Bad Boy.” Due to his charismatic charm and super confident demeanor, he is everything she is not. He makes her feel safe and loved, she trust the words off his lips as if written from God himself. Life is all about her family & friends, but mostly about pleasing her man. You will find the good girl to be a bit of a “plain Jane,” often when they (she and her lover) are together they look a bit mismatched, that’s because they are. Good Girls tend to be push over’s and will tolerate a lot of abuse and unfairness from their mate, until… she becomes---
The Bad Girl: Bad Girl’s were typically once a “Good Girl.” Some tragic event happens in the Good Girls life and causes her to rebel against the person she once was. Bad Girls will most likely never return to her pure heartedness ever again. That part of her is dead. The Bad Girl wants nothing more but to feel alive and revenge the man who hurt her. She will most likely become someone you don’t recognize, such as tighter clothes, new hair style, and a different attitude. She cannot wait the day but to see that “Jody” who hurt her so, and show him that she is “the shit and the toilet.” What she has failed to realize is that, this is not who she truly is. Yes, it felt great to cut loose of her inhibitions, but the possibility of promiscuity and internal loneness that being a “Bad Girl” can bring, is not for her so...she is welcomed into the covenant of being…
Miss. Independence: She has begun to heal from the past hurt and distrust she has experienced at the hands off men. Miss.Indi.is ready to grow internally, and radiates externally with a growth and confidence that could only be achieved through facing the storms of love and relationships and holding tight to the umbrella of hope. No longer does she look towards her male partners to validate her, she looks to them to compliment her swag. Miss. Independence is not looking to every man who enters her life as a possible mate, but for what it is; if the friendship blossoms into a future then that would be fine as well. Always conscious and never forgetting the pain of love all while remembering its beauty is what makes Miss. Independence the most attractive of them all. Her balance of life, love, friends and aspirations, makes her the realist women amongst them all.
As a woman I know I cannot be defined or categorized from day to day, but an outline would be helpful. That is what you have here. Look deep with-in, try to find which “girl” you most identify with and begin to bring self awareness into your life. I promise, relationships with the opposite sex will begin to become much clearer, in time. Good Girl, Bad Girl, and Miss. Independence: Which One Are You?
This is a brief synopsis of the categories from the book titled: The Art of Persuasion: The Seduction Manuel (Authored by Trina B due out December 2009.) This topic is a chapter long. Men are all so categorized and we will touch on them later.-Trina B.
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