- With the long anticipated break of Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian, one has to wonder what went wrong. Some say, “the long distant relationship,” some add.” She was too busy for him,” but most speculate it was her love for the glitz and glamour and his despondency to it. Now—the question that swirls in many minds is, Can a relationship survive if the two are not equally yoked?
- Over the years I’m sure we have all heard an elder around us or in the community say, “you have to be equally yoked,” but what does that mean; to most of us below 30 years of age, not a got damn thing.
- Experience teaches us in time that “equally yoked” clearly means, be made with the same stuff in the inside. It is difficult for someone to agree with or understand a language they don’t speak, the same goes in relationships. If one person is a workaholic, and the other is a home body, it will not be long before the two worlds collide. Very seldom can opposites truly attract if their differences are what makes the core of them. Yes, it hold true that an introvert paired with extrovert could and do have a long lasting relationship, that’s due to the laws of nature—everything most and do balance. The introvert desires to be the extrovert but is normally to afraid, therefore being coupled with the opposite brings them excitement, and an opportunity to break free and experience new things; that they may have never experienced if they had not joined forces. In contrast the extrovert needs to hold back, the introvert is a calmer, they bring silence when everything else around the extrovert is noisy, Fire and Water.
- Now let’s look at “core differences.” Some people adapt to certain surroundings such as, rural living over city life, warm climates over cold, I mean the list goes on. These core differences can ruin a relationship. When you ask someone to change their values and morals opposed to changing characteristics, you will always have discord. This is the difference between “opposite attraction,” and being “equally yoked.”
- You must balance each other in morals and values to have a healthy happy relationship. If you don’t, the things you found cute in the beginning will quickly turn into the things you hate. Example, he/she drinks from the milk carton, you believe this to be grotesque. How long before you explode, from this “heinous” act, not long is my guess.
- Reggie and Kim are no different, if she loves the camera and he doesn’t, for the sake of love he will try to adapt, (thee ole’ paint over your stripes I call it.) But, in the end you cannot change the heart of you, you are who you are; eventually the paint fades and the zebra reemerges. A lion can never mate with a stripped horse, after some self actualization he/she will soon gallop into the sun in search of his very own zebra, realizing there are plenty of them in the jungle of love and life. -Trina B.
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