Two for the Price of One: Why is Hairdressers Doubling as Relationship Therapist?

It’s a trend that has been going on since bumper curls, and straightening combs; “my hairdresser, my therapist.” Many times women don’t feel comfortable talking to their close friends and family about their personal relationships. Most likely for good reason, bad advice, or fear of reviling secrets in their relationship double has a vaccination, for talking about wounds that time has healed, (Example: Jody has cheated on you in the past, but you’ve never told a soul. ) You probably never told anyone because of:

• A.) The family loves him and you would not want to taint their image of him due to his mistake, (Everyone makes mistakes, Right?)
  

• B.) Everyone hates him and told you he was the worst choice you’ve made, (since drinking light and dark liquors at the same time.)
  

• C.) You too embarrassed to ever admit that you are having the same issues that your single girlfriends, or bad relationship girlfriends are having.
  

• Whatever you’re reasoning is the hair stylist is neutral territory. He/she is the one person whose judgment doesn’t go any further than the shops chair. They have no connection to your personal friends (most time) and your secrets are safe, (*Side Note: this article is not about the trouble making, big mouthed hair dressers we know exist, because in reality they are far and few between.) Women love to sit in the chair and release all their pressures; mental, physically and spiritually. Hairstylists across the world are acting out the roles of paid psychiatrist. They are expected to listen attentively, and ask probing question to cause the individual to and & aid you in rethinking your position. While treating your mane they are helping you plan, and put life into focus. Happily, hairdressers pass their time while listening to you; and while they hear you, they begin to draw from their own life experiences. So in reality the patient becomes the Dr. and vice-versa. Two for the price of one has a literal has well as a metaphoric meaning.
  

• If you are one who can’t wait to sit in the beauticians chair and let go of all your life’s troubles, perhaps you should take into consideration that there are professional you can talk to about life, love and relationships and your weavologist or whatever you refer to her as, may have her own issues, and yours is not one of them.
  

• Cosmetologist, you have two talents, one of course is making beautiful women feel more wonderful, and the other is the gift for being attentive and patient with their troubles. But, keep it in prospective. Listen without lending opinions from personal experience—as not to be the blame of poor outcomes.
  

• When it comes to love and life, you may travel many paths some roads are bumpy and some rather smooth, but it is the decisions that you make along the way that defines the method of travel. Be an ear for everyone, but remember your ears are closer to your own lips. Listen and trust yourself before you seek the advice of others, chances are you know the answer, you are just looking for confirmation. –Trina B.
  

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Bust it Baby: He said, she said; I am going to Do Me.

• It seems that no one is above, close friends and family minding their business, not even rapper Lil’ Wayne and actress Lauren London. With rumors circulating for months on the relevancy of gossip & grape vine talk, that was; the dimpled beauty is pregnant by Mr. “I wish I could fuck every girl in the world,” that could never satisfy the thirst of mass media to “hurray” with gleam when disparity or misfortune falls upon the news desk. It is now running amok all over the internet that, Lauren’s baby may not be fathered by Lil’ Wayne. It is also being said, that current other baby carrier and former singer, Nivea and ex-wife Toya are stirring the irons in the fire. But, statements from Lil’ Wayne are resounding loud and clear, he doesn’t care what they say, “I am the pappy!” No Maury show, no DNA just trust and love, that’s the most beautiful compliment any women can ever have; the unnerving trust and stability that no matter what anyone says, “you know me and I know you.” That’s the security relationships are made of. But, too often this is not the outcome. More likely men listen to negative talk by the closest people to him, and cause discord in an otherwise healthy relationship. When are talk just words and letters?
  

• Ignoring momma’s warnings and homeboys cautions are sometimes the hardest thing for a man to do. Often, in his heart he is 100% dedicated to the situation, but the constant tug-a-war between life time members and life partners causes him to make bad decisions. Woman we must stay strong and consistently remind him, that infidelity is a word left to those who are without honor. If he ask for a DNA test, (in a respectful way Fellas) give it to him. This means more to him then you. Not because he doesn’t trust YOU, but he wants those around him to silence there chatter. If he doesn’t that’s fine too, but—give thought to the fact he could be tortured by these people ill thoughts for years to come and if you step up to quiet the Nay Sayers, you will being doing you entire family a great service.
  

• It is always touchy and hurtful when your promiscuity and fetus are a topic of discussion. Being strong and firm in your truth will prove to be your light. It never hurts to start with an open trusting relationship from the start, but the most important person in this situation is the baby. Keep the child in mind when you are faced with adversity, and be respectful to the innocent.
  If you are in this situation and you are one of the ones who feel the female is not caring your love one’s child, my advice to you is; mind your own damn business. Nothing never lives under a blanket the truth will always rear its ugly head. Your job as a friend, family member etc. is to love who and what they love. That’s all. The rest is up to them.-Trina B.
  
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Content To Take The Lead Role: Can A Relationship Survive The Limelight?

• With the long anticipated break of Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian, one has to wonder what went wrong. Some say, “the long distant relationship,” some add.” She was too busy for him,” but most speculate it was her love for the glitz and glamour and his despondency to it. Now—the question that swirls in many minds is, Can a relationship survive if the two are not equally yoked?
  

• Over the years I’m sure we have all heard an elder around us or in the community say, “you have to be equally yoked,” but what does that mean; to most of us below 30 years of age, not a got damn thing.
  

• Experience teaches us in time that “equally yoked” clearly means, be made with the same stuff in the inside. It is difficult for someone to agree with or understand a language they don’t speak, the same goes in relationships. If one person is a workaholic, and the other is a home body, it will not be long before the two worlds collide. Very seldom can opposites truly attract if their differences are what makes the core of them. Yes, it hold true that an introvert paired with extrovert could and do have a long lasting relationship, that’s due to the laws of nature—everything most and do balance. The introvert desires to be the extrovert but is normally to afraid, therefore being coupled with the opposite brings them excitement, and an opportunity to break free and experience new things; that they may have never experienced if they had not joined forces. In contrast the extrovert needs to hold back, the introvert is a calmer, they bring silence when everything else around the extrovert is noisy, Fire and Water.
  

• Now let’s look at “core differences.” Some people adapt to certain surroundings such as, rural living over city life, warm climates over cold, I mean the list goes on. These core differences can ruin a relationship. When you ask someone to change their values and morals opposed to changing characteristics, you will always have discord. This is the difference between “opposite attraction,” and being “equally yoked.”
  

• You must balance each other in morals and values to have a healthy happy relationship. If you don’t, the things you found cute in the beginning will quickly turn into the things you hate. Example, he/she drinks from the milk carton, you believe this to be grotesque. How long before you explode, from this “heinous” act, not long is my guess.
  

• Reggie and Kim are no different, if she loves the camera and he doesn’t, for the sake of love he will try to adapt, (thee ole’ paint over your stripes I call it.) But, in the end you cannot change the heart of you, you are who you are; eventually the paint fades and the zebra reemerges. A lion can never mate with a stripped horse, after some self actualization he/she will soon gallop into the sun in search of his very own zebra, realizing there are plenty of them in the jungle of love and life. -Trina B.

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MR.MC.FLY: BIG TALK,BIG EGO?

CATCH HUSHHH TV HOST TRINA B., AND MR.MC.FLY ONE OF THE WINNERS IN THE "RIP THE RUNWAY AUDITION EDITION!" THE FINAL WINNER WILL PERFORM ON STAGE WITH DRAKE, KERI HILSTON, AND PLEASURE P. MORE DETAILS TO COME.

GOOD GIRL, BAD GIRL, MISS. INDEPENDENCE: WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

Many women can find themselves changing in wants, needs and desires on any given day. Needy, insecure, confident, strong, depending upon mood and life experiences; women can be one if not all on the same day. But, this is not about the chameleon. This is about whom you are MOST of the time. We all are familiar with the reflection in the mirror, but who is the person standing there. Good Girl, Bad Girl, or Miss Independence: Which One Are You?

The Good Girl: Normally she tends to be a little “green,” sheltered or perhaps just inexperienced. She tends to think that “all is fair in love & war,” and dishonesty wears a stamp on its sleeve; Naive, to say the least. The “Good Girl” will normally fall victim to the “Bad Boy.” Due to his charismatic charm and super confident demeanor, he is everything she is not. He makes her feel safe and loved, she trust the words off his lips as if written from God himself. Life is all about her family & friends, but mostly about pleasing her man. You will find the good girl to be a bit of a “plain Jane,” often when they (she and her lover) are together they look a bit mismatched, that’s because they are. Good Girls tend to be push over’s and will tolerate a lot of abuse and unfairness from their mate, until… she becomes---

The Bad Girl: Bad Girl’s were typically once a “Good Girl.” Some tragic event happens in the Good Girls life and causes her to rebel against the person she once was. Bad Girls will most likely never return to her pure heartedness ever again. That part of her is dead. The Bad Girl wants nothing more but to feel alive and revenge the man who hurt her. She will most likely become someone you don’t recognize, such as tighter clothes, new hair style, and a different attitude. She cannot wait the day but to see that “Jody” who hurt her so, and show him that she is “the shit and the toilet.” What she has failed to realize is that, this is not who she truly is. Yes, it felt great to cut loose of her inhibitions, but the possibility of promiscuity and internal loneness that being a “Bad Girl” can bring, is not for her so...she is welcomed into the covenant of being…

Miss. Independence: She has begun to heal from the past hurt and distrust she has experienced at the hands off men. Miss.Indi.is ready to grow internally, and radiates externally with a growth and confidence that could only be achieved through facing the storms of love and relationships and holding tight to the umbrella of hope. No longer does she look towards her male partners to validate her, she looks to them to compliment her swag. Miss. Independence is not looking to every man who enters her life as a possible mate, but for what it is; if the friendship blossoms into a future then that would be fine as well. Always conscious and never forgetting the pain of love all while remembering its beauty is what makes Miss. Independence the most attractive of them all. Her balance of life, love, friends and aspirations, makes her the realist women amongst them all.

As a woman I know I cannot be defined or categorized from day to day, but an outline would be helpful. That is what you have here. Look deep with-in, try to find which “girl” you most identify with and begin to bring self awareness into your life. I promise, relationships with the opposite sex will begin to become much clearer, in time. Good Girl, Bad Girl, and Miss. Independence: Which One Are You?

This is a brief synopsis of the categories from the book titled: The Art of Persuasion: The Seduction Manuel (Authored by Trina B due out December 2009.) This topic is a chapter long. Men are all so categorized and we will touch on them later.-Trina B.

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Fear of Flying: WHY ARE SO MANY PEOPLE AFRAID OF LOVE?

It’s so easy to trust no one but yourself, but it becomes a task to place your trust in some one. We have often learned to deflect emotions and project dislike. For example, you are totally feeling someone opposite yourself, but to friends (when asked your status with this individual) you say, “It aint bout nothing!” But, in reality you are truly “feeling” her /him. Why do we become afraid of the possibilities of relationships?

Often times depending upon which sex is asked this very question, you could get an array of answers ranging from the most intimate, to some rather superficial. I’ve found most women are afraid of getting their “hopes up” about love only to be let down by broken promises and deceit. Although, some men have the same fear, a large group of men will say, “They are not ready yet.”
So where does this lead society? For women, they have turned to multiple partners to fill the void of one meaning full relationship. They have begin to fall victim to casual sex and relationships based on absolutely nothing but gratification. Most of these women cannot get a man to purchase them take out, none the less a real dinner date. Some women have fallen prey to the disillusioned belief that, “they are in control.” You are not. The power of the P.U.S.S.Y is alive and well, they were getting “head” from some chick before you, they should continue to do so while with you. Get your worth, value yourself. Just because you are an independent self sufficient women doesn’t mean you should not be treated as the beauty you are. Don’t allow these “new” male dominated over hyped statement such as “she got her own,” turn you away from being held in the highest regards. How many times have you found the good guy loving the neediest, bummed-out females on the planet? Think about it. Men are men, (real ones anyway) they have to feel needed out and they also have to feel like they have purpose. Keep this in mind, as you swim the dating pool.

Fellas, its okay to have a serious relationship on your terms, don’t allow anyone to force the issue; it will only result in someone getting hurt. But, you should not be afraid of Miss Right, if you spot her across the room. Realize your strength with her and that could propel you into a dynamic future. If you find yourself in a situation where you are not sure; “DOUBLE CHECK HER STORY!” There is no harm in being sure. A large amount of women today, are playing some real games and you guys have no idea of how good they are at them. Watch your step, and proceed with caution.

As human beings we all have fears and in matters of the heart it can scare the toughest man, but, you must trust your instincts and your heart because they eyes can sometimes deceive the mind. The best advice ever given to me was this, “When man/women talks—LISTEN and when they tell you who they are—BELIEVE them.” –Trina B.

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YOU WOULD BE MY BOYFRIEND, IF I DIDNT ALREADY HAVE ONE

With the growing amount of polygamous relationships, there is no wonder why songs such as Pleasure P’s ”Boyfriend #2” and Jasmine Sullivan’s “Switch” can keep toes tapping and ringtones popping. Today’s women are showing, being a dog can be a real bitch. Long are the days of women standing by aimlessly watching as their men cheat and deceive, the 21st century shows you that the Lady is indeed a tramp. Popularity is growing with a vast number of women “dipping out” on their relationships to “jump off,” with others, but why? Taking the time to speak with several women these were the top reasons I was given (men pay attention):

1. “He cheated first!” Some women say that the hurt and disappointment (they have become all too familiar with) has caused distrust in their relationships. They feel that they could never put all their “eggs in one basket,” so if they find their significant other cheating, they will be well prepared the second time—armed with a “Jody” aka “plan B.”


2. “Great Man, Bad Lover!” Although they love their man and he is the greatest person they have ever met, “he” is just not fulfilling their sexual needs. They run to the “guy on the side,” for greater sexual gratification.


3. “Q.T. (quality time), what the hell is that?” This was the most common response. These women are starved for attention and feel underappreciated, due to the lack of time they spend with their partner. Some of them even sneak their “boy toys,” into their homes, under their sheets and find it ever so rewarding that there man doesn’t even know—the white stains on the sheets did not come from using Powdered Tide, when washing clothes.

Cheating, Lying and Sneaking is now a team sport. Women have long exchanged their aprons for suits, but they have also decided “anything he can do, I can get away with,” The victim is now the perpetrator. Watch out, men! There is a brand new trend in town and it cost more than a trip to Neman Marcus. You have lost you ability to be a “bad boy” and keep a “good girl.”

If your sex game is weak and you know it, ask her how to step it up. If you have a smaller penal size, pray to the penis God (monotheism) to get a larger one—over night, or… talk to your Doctor. Learn to use toys that are stimulating and pleasing,
If you don’t she will find a Mandingo that will.


Mr. Rabbit, life is not a fairy tale. Alice will not stay in Wonderland if you have no time to say, “Hello—Goodbye!” There are many pressing concerns that take a man’s day, working, playing, and socializing with Craig and them; these things are hard work, but—take care of home first, before someone else gets your time.

Honesty is best when you enter a relationship, cheating is a difficult task. It takes less energy to tell the truth. If you and your partner truly enjoy having romantic relationships outside of the commitment you two share, perhaps explore becoming “swingers” or have an “open relationship.” Just keep in mind two wrongs don’t make a right, but two truths provide a happy life.

-Written by, Trina B.
Hushhh Publications. All rights reserved (17-7-09)

Do You Yield At The Red Light?: Sex on the Menstral Cycle

Often time’s women and men all around the world are faced with the age old question, “Is having sex on a woman’s period nasty?”
Some people sexual desires outweigh any rhyme or reason to not go “deep diving into the red sea.” Some men find it arousing as well as full filling due to its benefits:

• Having Sex “Raw” ( no condom) do to the a lessened risk of pregnancy (Ding Dong ***ring bells*** THIS IS NOT A FACT)

• More lubrication

• Warmer Sex
Some women find the experience having sex on their period extremely pleasurable. Most women find that their sexual desire rises during this time of the month and some women even orgasm from the insertion of a tampon. The benefits to some women are:

• Safer Sex (MYTH)

• Better Orgasm

• An increased amount of foreplay

But to some this is a violation to their religion, and some who refrain from it (not for religious purposes) may be quoted as calling it “nasty.” A large amount of men are agoraphobic and the sight of blood on their penis is not considered a “turn on”, rather viewed as a “turn off” and will only result in a soft erection or maybe no erection at all. Some women find that “running the red light,” causes a painful sexual experience because the blood can be tacky and coagulated, not slick and slippery. Sex is best when wet.
There are pros and cons to this topic and like most subjects pertaining to sex; it is of a personal preference. We would like to hear your opinion on this matter, Are you for or against sex while menstruating? Leave your comment here or email us at comments@hushhhtv.com

– Written by, Trina B.



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Im looking for Ms.Tootsie's

I see a gentleman dressed in all black with a hat, doo–rag and Gucci frames nestles himself at the bar stool next to mine—he flashes a captivating smile, head nod and an almost silent “hello,” he speaks, I smile back, and say, “hello.” DJ Spontan plays Capone N Noreaga’s 2009 release “Rotate,” at Club Lyrics in Philadelphia, Pa., the party goers are excited and receptive of the melody “Super Thug is back” sang by producer and rap artist Ron Browz & featuring the animated Busta Rhymes (third album titled “Channel 10,” due out later this year). I witness the seemly ordinary man, orders six shots of cognac and finding a moment in his apparent flirting to offer me a drink. His rather small frame heavily draped in diamonds—throws back a shot of Hennessey and distributes shots to his entourage. As he continues to (what sounds like whispering) correspond with me, I ask him to come closer to my ear, for he is inaudible. Immediately he tells me, he has “a low voice”, so excuse him if I cannot hear him very well. As we converse close enough to be mistaken as a “couple,” I introducing myself. After he had mistakenly took me for a model (classic flirt tactic, but we girls love it!), I explained to him my true career, and Hushhh TV. He said, “Tell me what you need me to do, and it’s done, I want to be a part of your show.” I thought to myself, great! As the song continued to play he said “that’s me,” (referring to the rhymes being displayed on the song) I said “oh okay.” I felt really dumb at that moment, He was Capone of CNN. I, without hesitation go into reporter mode. I began by asking him, what is the one thing people might not know about your bedroom habits? He replied, “I have a foot fetish!” I instantly pull in closer to assure myself that I heard him correctly, and said, “A foot fetish?” with an apparently intrigued grin, he said “yup!” Before I could gather my next thought I began to feel his hands rubbing across my sandal cover foot; he began admiring my pink polished toes. He says, “I hope I am not disrespecting you by touching your feet,” I said with a huge laugh, “no as long as you don’t touch anything else,” He agreed. Capone and I spoke in depth referencing, how he likes to” lick toes” and loves a beautiful woman with well groomed feet. I found our discussion informative as well as humorous. Capone is a man who knows what he wants and has no problem using his charm to get it. Later, that evening I got Capone in front of the Hushhh TV camera and that’s where his love for the “little piggy’s” was truly displayed. Stay tuned for part two of the “Capone De-Feet, Is not Always a Loss” interview, believe me it will takes you guys to an all time low. –Trina B.
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Dreams of Fuckin' A Model Chick

As I sit patiently waiting for my next guest, I see a relatively young, fair-skinned woman; sporting a Rihanna like short Mohawk mane, wearing a silver sequined mid-drifted jacket and boy cut shorts to match. Very confident in her skin, the tattooed stomach woman approaches— we are introduced, my name is “Mona Lisa,” she says. Mona is a petite “Straight Stuntin’ Magazine” model, doubling as an exotic dancer in one of Philadelphia’s most infamous spots, “Club Onyx.”Before our sit down I watched this charismatic entertainer, wow the Fellas with her booty popping and slow winding, the playboy bunny stamp on her lower back only enhances their lust, flashing a sexy captivating smiles at her crowd of admirers, she is pleased by her orgasmic hypnotic abilities.Mona Lisa and I sit down to a brief interview before the cameras of Hushhh TV begin to roll. I asked her, “How comfortable are you speaking on sexuality,” she replied, “Very!” With that bold word in mind, I begin to “go in” on Ms. Mona. I asked her about oral sex and what are her turnoff’s and on, in a man. After giving a definitive description of the type of guy she is looking for, we moved to her future. With multi-media aspirations of her own, Mona Lisa will be headed to Miami in coming months. Upon our completion of off camera dialogue, I closed by asking, “What advice would you give to the females out there who do not have a great technique in giving oral sex” she said,…. Watch Hushhh TV for the reply and more, from the vivacious, sexy, Mona Lisa, Ms. Jackson if your nasty. -Trina B.
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